On this page you can download the forms and information needed to start the mediation process, and you can also access some websites and reading materials we recommend to help you through your separation.  If you need any more information, contact us today.

CALM Scotland Resources

Referral Form
This is the form you will receive from your CALM Scotland mediator. Filling this out will help your mediator understand not only all your contact details but also the nature of your dispute that you would like to be resolved at mediation.  The more information you put into this form, the clearer a picture your mediator will have, and this can help kickstart the mediation process for you.

Financial & Circumstances Form
If at mediation you will be trying to sort out the financial and property matters arising from your separation, filling out this form will give your mediator the information he or she will need to help you identify what is there and how you would like to move on financially after the separation. Again, the more information you put into this form the more fruitful the mediation process will be, so please try and complete it as accurately and truthfully as possible.

CALM Code of Practice
As we say elsewhere on the site, our lawyer mediators are not only experienced family lawyers accredited as Family Mediators by the Law Society of Scotland, and as such bound by very strict regulations, ethics and standards, we adhere also to our own equally strict code of practice you can download here. You can be sure, therefore, that your CALM Scotland mediator will be very well served to upholding those standards during your mediation process.

The Daily CALM
This is our daily online newspaper packed with articles, news, videos and resources designed to help you through your separation or divorce. Please subscribe to stay up to date.

And remember to keep in touch with us on our social media channels. Just click the links at the top and bottom of the site to connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, Google+, YouTube, and LinkedIn. Anything else, please use the contact form and we'll come back to you as quickly as possible.

Online Mediation Training

Learn in 3 sessions how to mediate online. 3 webcam sessions of 90 minutes run by Scott C. Docherty (accredited mediator with CALM Scotland) and Ewan Malcolm (Chief Executive of Relate London North West, Chair of College of Mediators, Board Member of Family Mediation Council), and you're good to go! To register your interest on their waiting list, click here.

Offline Mediation Training

Together with Consensus Scotland, we run an annual training programme for family lawyers looking to train in family mediation, and we also arrange regular training events nationally and locally for members of CALM Scotland. To learn more about how we can help you train in the world of mediation, click here.


Books for your children to read about separation and divorce

Two Homes by Claire Mansurel

It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear by Vicki Lansky & Jane Prince

The Huge Bag of Worries by Virginia Ironside

Dinosaurs Divorce by Laurene Krasny Brown & Marc Brown

The Suitcase Kid by Jacqueline Wilson

What In the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce by Kent Winchester

Goggle Eyes by Anne Fine

Little Meerkat's Big Panic by Jane Evans


Also depending on their age your children might find voicesinthemiddle.org.uk quite helpful. Also known as Kids in the Middle, this is a site contributed to by young people, campaigning to uphold the right of the child to be listened to in separation and divorce, and finding ways of achieving this in mediation and family law. The site provides a number of resources and shares helpful stories told by children who have been through separation.


Books for you to read about separation, divorce & parenting

The Complete Guide to Divorced Parenting by Christopher Mills

Talking to Children About Divorce – Positive Conversations by Sue Atkins

The Guide for Separated Parents: Putting Children First by Karen & Nick Woodall

Help Your Children Cope With Your Divorce by Paula Hall (Relate)

Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome by Amy J. L. Baker

The Truth About Children And Divorce by Robert Emery

Love Lose Live by Mary Banham-Hall

How To Talk To Your Kids About Separation by Scott C Docherty

The Co-Parents' Handbook & The Parenting Plan Handbook by Karen Bonnell


Websites & resources to browse about separation, divorce & parenting


Part of Cyrenians, the Scottish Centre for Conflict Resolution (SCCR) is a national resource promoting and supporting best practice in mediation, conflict resolution and early intervention with a focus on family relationships. Conflict within families can have devastating effects on life chances. In Scotland, family relationship breakdown is one of the biggest causes of youth homelessness, and the SCCR delivers a range of free events and resources across Scotland including a series of seminars, conferences, training, and online resources for young people, parents, carers and practitioners working with families. They aim to support everyone to become more confident in managing conflict and family relationships. So have a look and see how they might help you.


Home Start's informal and friendly support for families with young children provides a lifeline to thousands of parents and children in over 300 communities across the UK and with Forces families in Germany and Cyprus. You can find your local Home Start and access the resources by clicking the link here.


Relationships Scotland is another mediation provider in Scotland, and also helps individuals, couples and families with counselling, child contact centres and other family support services around the country.  For many years they have been a national voice for relationship services and influence political and legislative policy development in the family support area, but more importantly for you it is best to take a look around the site and see how they can help you in your time of need.


This charity is geared towards ensuring every child and young person in Scotland has a happy, health, safe and secure childhood.  Its relevance to you in the separation is that it has a great deal of information on the site to help you guide your children during this difficult time in your life, and that it also directs you towards its advice lines for single parents.


This is an English charity but is concerned with the mental health and well-being of children around the world.  There is a great amount of supportive information for parents looking to guide their children through separation.


Sue Atkins appears regularly as a parenting expert on ITV's This Morning programme, as well as on Sky and BBC TV and radio shows. She has written a number of popular books and resources, including helpful Fink cards which can help you talk to your children about your separation. Although she is based in England, she offers workshops and a divorce programme that can be accessed over Skype and are designed to help you and the family through some difficult times.


This is one of the world’s most popular sites about parenting issues and the health of children, and is designed so that it can be accessed from the eyes of a younger child, teen or adult.  Use the search box provided to hone into the advice about separation.


This is a partnership of a number of like-minded charities and is funded by the Scottish Government.  In the site there is a wealth of information for families and family practitioners, and the publication section of essays, tips and other materials is extremely valuable for those looking for some guidance on parenting after separation.


A significant resource for many personal and emotional issues you might experience in life, including in relation to living life after separation.


Contact CALM Family Mediators Scotland

For further information and advice, or how best to get in touch with one of our mediators, please contact our CALM Scotland secretary on 0141 889 6244 or use our online enquiry form.

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